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Are you getting in the way of your own success?

What is Self Sabotage Behavior?

Self sabotage behavior is when there is no logical or rational explanation for why you can't do the things you want to do or why you can't have the things you want to have.

If there is anything you really want to do or have, but are unable to bring it into your life--and there is no logical, rational, or otherwise, "real" reason why you can't do or have it--you are experiencing self sabotaging behavior!

It's not a lack of desire, skills, knowledge or effort that holds you back.  Rather, there's something inside you that's stronger than your desire and it sabotages your efforts to do the things you want to do and have the things you want to have.

Self-sabotage behavior can destroy your motivation to do the things you really want to do by creating an internal tug-of-war. Everyone sabotages himself or herself from time to time. Unfortunately, sometimes we sabotage ourselves to the point of not being able to live the successful, happy life we really want to live.

What does self-sabotage behavior have to do with the Law of Attraction?

When you are sabotaging your own efforts to be successful, you are out of inner alignment with both the Law of Right Action and the Law of Attraction.

When you are experiencing self sabotage barriers it is very difficult to live by the Law of Right Action because self sabotage creates procrastination and feelings of self doubt. These feelings can greatly hinder your ability to complete the necessary work for reaching your goals and creating your desired success.

How do I know if I am sabotaging my own efforts?

Self-sabotage behavior is most recognizable by the experience of an internal "tug-of-war" between having a desire to do something and feeling like you can't or shouldn't do it.

Any time you hear yourself say, "I want to do this, but I can't or I shouldn't!" this is the inner conflict of self-sabotage behavior. If there is anything you really want to do or have, but are unable to bring it into your life--and there is no logical, rational, or otherwise, "real" reason why you can't do and/or have it--you are experiencing self-sabotaging behavior!      

Click the Play button to listen to Troyann as she talks about the inner tug-of-war of procrastination and self-doubt.

What are the "symptoms" of self-sabotage behavior?

Self-sabotage behavior affects people of all ages, professions, financial and social status! Few people are exempt from this frustrating fact of life!

Self-sabotage behavior can show up in many different ways and on many different levels of severity. For example, if you really want to exercise after work, but the moment you get home to change clothes, you start thinking of all the other things you "should" do instead... this is the internal conflict of self-sabotage behavior! Or for example, if you really want to write a new resume, but at the very same time, really don't want to muster up the energy to sit down and work on it, this is the struggle of self-sabotage behavior. Or for example, you really want to stay on a diet and lose weight, but can't seem to stop yourself from over eating.

You are experiencing self-sabotage behavior if... 

• You have created success in many areas of your life, yet continue to struggle to create success in areas that really matter to you.

• Procrastination blocks you from creating the success you desire.

• Self-doubt blocks you from creating the success you desire.

• You start projects and don't finish them.

• You worry too much.

• You often feel depressed and discouraged.

• You lose weight only to gain it (and more) back again.

• You work and work and work, but never feel like you are making any real progress.

• You find yourself still working to "get over" the same challenges, problems and hurdles today as last year, the year before or even the decade before.

• You are tired of never having quite enough money.

• You worry what other people think of you.

• You are dissatisfied with your life, career, relationships, etc.

• You are addicted to struggle.

• You are addicted to drama.

• You have unfulfilled dreams.

• You do things that destroy your relationships with the people you love.

• You don't trust others and/or others don't trust you.

• You experience undesired weight gain or loss due to compulsive eating behaviors.

• You have excessive unhealthy habits such as smoking, drinking, gambling, etc.

• You have uncontrollable mood swings, depression, anxiety and/or panic attacks.

• You can't control your anger.

• You do things that jeopardize your job and financial stability.

• You belittle yourself and others.

• You stay in abusive relationships.

• You exaggerate the truth.

• You experience disabling feelings of anger, resentment and/or shame.

• You often feel you are misunderstood and/or criticized by others.

• You know you have the potential to do more with your life.

• You wish you could procrastinate less and accomplish more.

• You have to talk yourself into getting out of bed in the mornings.

• You constantly avoid completing the important things on your to-do list.

• You often fight and argue with the people you love.

• You have to force yourself to stay committed to your goals.

• You've started to lose hope that you will ever live the life you dream of living.

Why does a person sabotage his or her own efforts to create success?

Self-sabotage behavior occurs when you have conflicting internal beliefs about the accomplishment of your goal. One part of you wants to accomplish the goal and another part does not. Self-sabotage manifests itself when the part that does not want you to accomplish your goals is stronger than the part that does.

Self-sabotage behavior can leave you feeling frustrated, discouraged, and trapped in a situation you desperately want to change.
 
Self-sabotage barriers are irrational and illogical, and they chip away at your self-esteem and self-confidence!

Self-sabotage barriers damage your sense of well-being and causes you to lose confidence in yourself. It can create feelings of frustration, discouragement, resentment, anger and panic.

Most significantly, it stops you from doing and having the things you really want for your life!

How do I break free from my self-sabotage behaviors?

If you are experiencing self-sabotage behavior, desire isn’t enough to create what you want. You must put yourself in mental, emotional and physical alignment with the accomplishment of your goal. You can take yourself through the step-by-step workshop to learn the step-by-step process for identifying your self-sabotage behaviors and transforming them into positive behaviors that are in alignment with your goals. Once you are in alignment with your goals you will move naturally and easily toward the accomplishment of those goals!

Will this work help me stop procrastinating?

Yes! Yes! Yes! Procrastination is the poster-child for self-sabotage behavior! If you are experiencing procrastination you are out of inner alignment with both the Law of Inner Alignment and the Law of Right Action - which automatically puts you out of sync with the Law of Attraction. We will help you work to recognize the source of your procrastination and transform it into motivation toward the accomplishment of your goal.

How will this work improve my ability to create financial success?

The Break Free From Self-Sabotage Behavior curriculum is designed to teach you how to uncover your hidden, unhealthy beliefs that cause you to sabotage your ability to create the success you desire. Breaking free from your internal self sabotaging barriers regarding money and financial prosperity will allow you to put yourself into alignment with the Law of Right Action and the Law of Attraction so you can easily and naturally do the work that will allow you to move toward financial success.

How will this work enhance my relationships?

The Break Free From Self-Sabotage Behavior curriculum is designed to teach you how to uncover your hidden, unhealthy beliefs that cause you to sabotage your relationships. Breaking free from your self-sabotage behaviors will help you to enhance your inner strength and self-confidence.  This internal sense of well-being will allow you to confidently and comfortably create healthier, happier relationships.

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