Joseph (not his real name) came to me because his “Need for Perfection” was stressing him out and alienating him from his employees.
As the owner of a small manufacturing company, Joseph felt that the only way to keep his company afloat in these difficult economic times was to make certain that EVERYTHING they did was absolutely “PERFECT”.
Joseph spent much of each day inspecting the work of others and often having them re-do things two or three times. Unfortunately, Joseph was constantly changing his definition of “PERFECT” which meant that, for his employees, “PERFECT” was always a moving target.
As the busy owner of the company, he didn’t feel like he had the time to be overly concerned with the thoughts and feelings of the people who worked for him – he just knew that everything HAD to be done “PERFECTLY”. It wasn’t that he didn’t care about their feelings – it was that he felt he HAD to make sure everything was done “PERFECTLY”.
Joseph spent much of his day micromanaging everyone else’s work, so he typically spent his evenings doing his own work and this daily routine was wearing thin and stressing him out.
As Joseph and I began our work together he explained to me that he KNEW his employees were very smart and capable people, but his driving need for “PERFECT” was making everyone very unhappy and he was possibly in jeopardy of losing some of his best employees if he didn’t find a way to lighten up.
It was pretty clear that what Joseph does NOT want is for his business to fail. I know this with certainty because – in an attempt to justify his need for perfection – he spent a good amount of time telling me the bad things that might happen if they don’t do everything “PERFECTLY”.
However…what was NOT clear was what Joseph DOES want. So I began my work with Joseph by taking him through a process to help him get authentically clear about what he DOES want.
In getting clear on an authentic level about what he DOES WANT, we could then go through the process of uncovering Joseph’s inner beliefs that were out of alignment with what he wants.
We uncovered that Joseph had a very strong internal belief in his ability to BUILD a successful business, however he also harbored an equally strong internal belief that he did NOT have what it takes to MAINTAIN that level of success. This ineffective belief was “trying” to push him to work harder to maintain his company’s success however; all it was really doing was causing him to sabotage his success thereby creating a self-fulfilling prophecy that – indeed – he didn’t have the ability to maintain his success long-term. (Oh what a web we weave!)
What was really cool about this work with Joseph was that, in getting clear about what he DOES want, we automatically uncovered the authentic intention behind his negative belief. (It was –ineffectively– trying to help him to maintain his success by motivating and pushing him to work harder and harder.)
Our final step was to find new, more effective inner beliefs that will motivate Joseph in a positive and effective manner to joyfully go about the business of maintaining his company’s success. We used the
Break Free from Self Sabotage Behavior™ step-by-step process to install his new beliefs and Joseph reported an immediate change in his inner energy and his inner feelings about his work.
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